Let’s Get Moving!

make-things-happen-imageLet’s Get Moving!!!! Now I know some of us may really be in tune with these words while the rest of us just are sitting and waiting until something major happens that gives us no other option but to MOVE!!! Like waiting to be inspired by seeing friends or people whom you’ve never met get married, have a baby, graduate college, launch a biz and sad of all death. I have noticed that people go crazy pressing the like button for all that I have just mentioned but fail to press the “I WANT TO WIN” button, which currently does not exist by the way!(smile!)win-win

I just recently completed a 7 day challenge via facebook called “Shift Your Life” and many participated but only a few publicly let everyone know they were involved by their liking and sharing. I was challenged by 1 of my colleagues to see if Facebook was a platform that could be used to get people to TAKE ACTION and I realized something. I realized that some people caught on to the challenge right away and others caught on around the 3rd or 4th day and a little more near the end. This says to me that some people just need a lot more mindset motivation. They have all these goals but their readiness to achieve them is like finding a lizard in a field of tall grass. Their readiness cannot be easily found because they fear something. They may fear the unknown outcome of a shift in their life, success, failure etc… but it is definitely fear or simply procrastination and laziness. Notice I did not give any other reasons? Well if I gave a thousand reasons you surely could find one to attach yourself to and be content to say “THIS IS MY REASON AND I AM STICKING TO IT” but the only thing that you will achieve is a NEW EXCUSE NOT TO TAKE ACTION!!! It may sound harsh but I am a Mental Fitness Coach and I only want to see you come out winning like those football and basketball coaches want to see their guys win the championships!! You know how they start foaming at the mouth and jumping up and down on the sidelines while motivating their players! They are loud and TO THE POINT!!! You don’t have to listen because it’s a CHOICE AND THE CHOICE IS YOURS!!!

If you want a real shift you and no one else can give you room for EXCUSES!!! If you are waiting for everything to be perfect before you start, TRUST ME, you will almost NEVER GET STARTED!!! Sometimes it is in our storms where we find out what we are truly made of!!! You have to OWN YOUR GOALS AND THEY MUST ATTRACT YOU!!! If you are not ready to eat then don’t fish! Hey I am roughing it too! It is not easy AT ALL and if someone told you that THEY ARE TRULY LIYING!!!

We have to dress our minds for success otherwise our bodies won’t be attracted to it and ACTION JUST WON’T HAPPEN!!!
So Let’s Get Moving!!!! We have work to do! Out of maybe 7 participants to the “Shift Your Life” challenge ,2 have chosen to MOVE FORWARD and hire me as their coach to help them get MOVING! The challenge was only to awaken your subconscious and make you itch a little for success but choosing to go further will cause you to JUMP OUT OF YOUR SKIN TO WIN!!!

P.S. God Willing! See you on the other side of change because I no longer live in contemplation!Its not about Balance but it’s about a Harmonious Journey towards success!

Your Mental Fitness Coach,
Ukhtee Walida-Herspiring Bizness-“It’s Time”

Stop 3 D’ing Yourself!

When you 3D yourself you set up the arena for self doubt. What you believe about yourself becomes evident in your actions. Unfortunately we have found it quite easy to cheer for others as they climb the ladder to success but lack cheering for ourselves. Doing this often makes it harder for us to fully accept love from others.

So HOW do we 3 D ourselves?

We do this by DEvaluing, DEmeaning, and DIShonouring ourselves. It happens unintentionally and quite often for some of us. We rarely see these acts as ways that we are doubting ourselves because they are a habit. A lot of us are carrying on a legacy of self doubt that was handed down as a part of our upbringing. on the other hand some of us are falsely believing that this is the way to be and if we do otherwise we will become “Big Headed”! Either way it is what it is and unless we accept it and make changes it will block space for us to learn and grow. The price we are paying for possessing these bad habits of 3D’ing ourselves is high and may include:
Low self esteem
Ignorance of self worth
Lack of knowledge for self value
Feeling less than a person

What you get in return for your worthless investment is an unhappy and non-fulfilling life. It can have a negative effect on many if not all areas of your life.

A way to detect the ways you have or are 3D’ing yourself is to ask yourself the following questions…
Do I constantly criticize myself?
Do I allow sins I have committed to take me away from worshiping The Creator? Do I think that I am forever doomed no matter how much I repent/
Am I eating unhealthy foods in an exaggerated manner?
Am I not forgiving myself for mistakes I have made?
Am I identifying myself as a victim, failure, loser, unattractive, or unintelligent?
Am I punishing myself for not being perfect?
Am I allowing others to punish me for not living up to their expectations?
Am I cluttering my space until it sucks all of my energy and robs me of peace/
Am I repeating the same mistakes and not learning from them?
Am I being negligent in my prayers?
Am I holding on to relationships that are stunting my growth and making me unhappy?
Am I holding resentment and not forgiving those who have wronged me?
Am I allowing a tragic past to make me a bitter person?
Am I making excuses to not become the person that I believe The Creator has created me to be?
This list goes on and on but I will stop here and remind you that we must love ourselves so that we can really love The Creator and begin to receive all that He has in store for us in this life and the next.

Now take the words DEvalue, DEmean and DIShonor and remove the capital letters.
What do you have left?
That’s right! You have Value, Meaning and Honor and this is what you want to start doing consistently so that you begin actually living your life instead of existing hoping for a change. You have to be the change that you want to see in your life! Make it happen!

Finally Finding New Cheese!

Just finished reading “Who moved my Cheese” and realized that some people are Hemmers -not at all realizing that change will eventually have to happen in order to grow or Haws- Though it does feel scary moving through change it will become easier to accept once you begin to realize that your cheese has MOVED and that it is time to find NEW CHEESE despite your fears and EMBRACE the ADVENTURE while¬†picking up little pieces of ASSURITY along the way or Sniffers-You are always on the lookout for OPPORTUNITIES to change or better yet you smell when a change is coming on before it is actually presented to you so you stand READY or Scurries- You don’t waste time moving on to find NEW Cheese because you know that the old cheese is definitely GONE and ITS TIME to MOVE on in full force despite your obstacles and you are willing to learn and discover what is behind those walls that you kept avoiding for so long ,because you feared that you may get lost,hoping to discover New Cheese of all kinds! What I understood in total was that change is inevitable and that even when something is going good and it has lasted for a very long time, it too is subjected to change. on the flip side when something is not going so well and you you don’t seek to move on and change the circumstance for fear of loss or whatever is your fear, you loose hope of it ever changing and stay in the familiar to avoid that fear. Trust in Allah and know that he does not desire difficulty and that He can make the difficult easy! I speak to my own self first because my eyes are the first to see this message before yours and my mouth is closer to my two ears than it is to yours. We must prepare ourselves to move with the cheese(whatever it is marriage, business, health etc..) and walk through our fears to get what we truly desire in this life and in the next. El Hajj Malik Shabazz said not only “By Any Means Necessary” but also “It’s a pity that if opportunity were to present itself we would not even be ready”-#NextLevelStraightTalk#¬†Oh and i was the Haw for a very long time but I had to many Hems around me. If you have not read the story yall might want to check it out.