Move Like FIYA(Fear is Your Ally)!!!

fearAbout 2 weeks ago I started a facebook community to support, inspire, motivate and empower sisterpreneurs to MAKE IT HAPPEN IN BIZNESS!!! If you are a part of this community or have been stopping by to check us out, then you know what we have been up to lately and you also know how it has been so exciting to watch sisters transform in a matter of days! These sisters are stepping up, showing up, and shining their light! This community is not just your regular facebook group page, well at least we are all working to make sure of that.

Last week I challenged everyone to post a 60 second video about their businesses and it has just been amazing to watch each sister step into their light! Some of them are still contemplating but I just know they are gonna come out of their shell because the high energy is quite contagious! We are all posting inspiration and tips to support one another and one of the things I will begin to do are, live video posts discussing topics related to business and mental fitness. If you are reading this post then perhaps, you are someone who is just waiting for the green light/permission to step into your light! It’s time you own your talents and realize that they were not even given to you FOR YOU but they were given to you because YOU must deliver solutions to others who NEED EXACTLY what you have! Yes you have fears but those fears can actually help you move through to your success if you pay close attention and make them your allies. Know your fears acknowledge them and look for ways to overcome them. If you are not clear on how to do all of this hire a coach. We are pretty good at helping you push through and getting you to truly OWN YOUR SUCCESS!!! Plant your two feet firmly in the ground, put your trust in Allah, get the support you need, challenge yourself, and don’t even think of quitting because It’s time to move like FIYAH(Fear is Your Ally)!!!

“If Allah helps you, none can overcome you: If He forsakes you, who is there, after that, that can help you? In Allah, then, let believers put their trust.” [Qur’an Chapter 3 Verse 160]

See you on the other side of change because I no longer live in contemplation!

Your Mental Fitness Recovery Coach and Business Coachsultant,
Ukhtee Walida-Herspiring Bizness- “It’s Time”

5 Ways to a More Positive Mind

think-positiveNow I am sure you have experienced many ups and downs as you journey through your valley of becoming successful in business. Let’s Face It!!!! You know that it can be so overwhelming to the point you may even feel like quitting!!! Your eyes are swollen from staying up late at night, your head is bulging with pain from trying to strategize all night, your fingers are probably tired of you banging on your keyboard searching for ways to just get ahead, or you have this feeling in your gut that you just are not cut out for all of this entrepreneur stuff! You may even decide that you have wasted a lot of valuable time doing all that you have done so far!

Let me share something with you before you decide to arch your eyebrows and clinch your fists in rage because nothing seems to be going right or you cannot reach your desired goals in business. I had an idea to do just what I am doing about 6 years ago while suffering from emotional abuse in a toxic marriage. Why am I sharing this with you and how does this have anything to do with ways to stay positive as an entrepreneur? Well I will let you know that I had spent many nights crying to The Creator about how I just hated my situation so much I wanted to die and that I needed a clear way to come up from the extreme low that I was feeling daily. Now you might wonder how I decided that starting a business would be my way to freedom but that is no big mystery.

I knew that I was feeling like crap everyday and that the last ten years of my life at that point were filled with misery upon misery. I just wanted to help other women move through their misery and I thought by helping them I would heal myself as well. It started out as a business helping others in business but then I realized I had more of a natural way of helping women overcome misery in their personal lives. This is what led me to become a Life Coach and eventually a Mental Fitness Recovery Coach. I knew that if I could empower these women who shared a similar background with me to want to be in a better place mentally, emotionally and spiritually they would not feel so bankrupt. I also knew after two years of working with them that they also needed to be financially stable to feel strong enough to make changes to their lives. Money is not everything but it is a means to have access to so much. This is why I went on to become Certified as a Business Coach. The point is that I would not have ever been able to do any of this if I maintained a negative state of mind day in and day out. I had to turn in my victim card and put on my SURVIVOR GARMENTS because I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. You see you find your strength in your storms and it is wise if you use them to take advantage of the many opportunities that are around you.

Okay I have shared with you some of what I went through to become who I am today and now I would like to share with you the ways I had to stay positive in my journey in order to get there. I struggle hard to practice these ways of being positive as much as I can because it is possible to have a relapse if I don’t!

1). Follow Your Inner GPS to Joy– Realize what makes you joyful and do just that. Keep Ask yourself “What makes me feel joy?” I had to dig deep because I had lost myself through all of my unhappiness but I arrived at some beautiful things that make me feel joy and I try to do them often.

2). Manage your stress- It is all about how you carry your burdens rather than the weight of them. God does not give us anything we cannot bear. He is The Creator and He knows what we can handle so remember that the load is not there to harm you but there is some wisdom in it. We just need to ask for the way to handle it and be patient at it’s onset. Strategies to relieve stress are plentiful so you have to find what works best for you and do it often. (Reading, Drawing, Taking a long bath with some essential oils, Foot soak etc…)

3). Know where you are going and STAY THE COURSE!- When you have goals in place it becomes easier to achieve success. Be consistent, stay motivated, Don’t Give Up!!! It’s just that simple!

4). Get right back up after falling and don’t look back!- Yes sometimes you will win and sometimes you will fail  but be prepared knowing that the only way to truly make a home run is to fall a couple of times and get back up! It is in the getting back up that you will find your way to success. Persistence and Consistence. Keep moving despite your obstacles in business. You have to want this bad enough to lose a little along the way!! Sometimes you have to get a setback but know that it is only temporary and you should set yourself up for a strong comeback!

5).“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” — Jim Rohn, American entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker

Yes it is important to know that if you spend time with people who are either moving in the same direction you are moving or are where you want to be you will move closer to your success in a much quicker and less stressful way. You can’t hang with people that complain all day but do nothing about their circumstances  if you want to make a real shift in your circumstances. You want success hang with successful people!

I only hope this article helps you to realize how important it is to have a positive mindset.. It has been reported that people like us, entrepreneurs, often feel like breaking at the onset of stress and failure. We tend to  become bankrupt in our journey from giving to others and neglecting our self growth.

See you on the other side of change because I no longer live in contemplation!

Your Mental Fitness Recovery Coach, Business Coach

Ukhtee Walida

 

 

Who is likely to buy?

target-customersOkay, so you basically have thought about who you would like to market to maybe by age, gender, lifestyle, behavior etc.. but have you pinpointed or attempted to at least search for whom among your target market may be most likely to purchase your product/service? This process is called segmenting but on a more focused scale. Market segmenting to a small business owner can be vital to their success. I mean with all of the larger competition surrounding you , it would be wise to decide almost exactly who your customer is. Their are some key areas of segmenting , which if you design your marketing strategy around them , you can begin to see an increase in sales almost immediately! Check out these 5 areas below and use them to get focused on who your customer might be.

  1. Age- instead of a range like 11-18 get specific by saying teenagers in highschool
  2. Gender- instead of saying for ALL, instead specifically target teenage girls in highschool
  3. Lifestyle- What kind of Jewelry do teenage girls in highschool  like to wear(if you are an accesories biz)
  4. Geographics/Location/Weather- What do teenage girls in highschool, who live upstate NY, prefer  to wear in the Fall( ie.short, waist length jean jackets, light weight hijabs etc…)
  5. Behavior-   Do your customers care about prestige, what’s trending?  What kind of clothing do they like to purchase during the holidays?(colors, materials/fabric etc..)

For further explanation, a customer is not just someone who conveniently comes in to buy a few things from you but your customer is one who is willing and able( they have access to disposable income) to purchase your product or service because it fulfills a need or solves some problem they may be experiencing. Appreciate ALL purchases but take care of your customers because they are the ones keeping you in business! They trust that they can exclusively buy from you and they are consistently buying from you. Is your customer just 1  person ? The answer is NO! Your customer is a group of individuals that count on you to serve them. They are buying solutions they really don’t and should not be expected to understand the struggles you endure to get your product on the market or your service delivered. Work to develop a relationship with all who purchase from your biz whether they decide to buy or not. People often remember HOW THEY WERE TREATED. Its an emotion that drives action on all levels!

P.S. See you on the other side of change because I am no longer living in contemplation!

Your Mental Fitness and Business Coach,

Ukhtee Walida

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let’s Work Together!

challenge3:30 pm on Sunday December 25, 2016 I sat at my kitchen table and got a BIG IDEA! I thought about how so many women are stuck trying to market their businesses and just wanted to genuinely help. I and my friend and co -host, Jumuat Kenchi of Jdiza Clothing found at http://www.instgram.com/jdiza_clothing_co,started a challenge on facebook to help promote sister businesses around the globe allowing for customers to readily buy their products.  Each week we will feature businesses in a certain category. This week we are featuring businesses that sell clothing/accessories. If you have a biz or know anyone who has one encourage them to post it on the event page . I also ask that you share the event page with at least 10 of your friends! Please Go Check it out at https://www.facebook.com/events/630546480463585/

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P.S. See you on the other side of change because I no longer live in contemplation! You have what it takes to succeed all by The Creators Permission and Will. Let’s Get It!! When YOU WIN I WIN!!!

Ukhtee Walida-Your Mental Fitness and Business Coach

Let’s Get Moving!

make-things-happen-imageLet’s Get Moving!!!! Now I know some of us may really be in tune with these words while the rest of us just are sitting and waiting until something major happens that gives us no other option but to MOVE!!! Like waiting to be inspired by seeing friends or people whom you’ve never met get married, have a baby, graduate college, launch a biz and sad of all death. I have noticed that people go crazy pressing the like button for all that I have just mentioned but fail to press the “I WANT TO WIN” button, which currently does not exist by the way!(smile!)win-win

I just recently completed a 7 day challenge via facebook called “Shift Your Life” and many participated but only a few publicly let everyone know they were involved by their liking and sharing. I was challenged by 1 of my colleagues to see if Facebook was a platform that could be used to get people to TAKE ACTION and I realized something. I realized that some people caught on to the challenge right away and others caught on around the 3rd or 4th day and a little more near the end. This says to me that some people just need a lot more mindset motivation. They have all these goals but their readiness to achieve them is like finding a lizard in a field of tall grass. Their readiness cannot be easily found because they fear something. They may fear the unknown outcome of a shift in their life, success, failure etc… but it is definitely fear or simply procrastination and laziness. Notice I did not give any other reasons? Well if I gave a thousand reasons you surely could find one to attach yourself to and be content to say “THIS IS MY REASON AND I AM STICKING TO IT” but the only thing that you will achieve is a NEW EXCUSE NOT TO TAKE ACTION!!! It may sound harsh but I am a Mental Fitness Coach and I only want to see you come out winning like those football and basketball coaches want to see their guys win the championships!! You know how they start foaming at the mouth and jumping up and down on the sidelines while motivating their players! They are loud and TO THE POINT!!! You don’t have to listen because it’s a CHOICE AND THE CHOICE IS YOURS!!!

If you want a real shift you and no one else can give you room for EXCUSES!!! If you are waiting for everything to be perfect before you start, TRUST ME, you will almost NEVER GET STARTED!!! Sometimes it is in our storms where we find out what we are truly made of!!! You have to OWN YOUR GOALS AND THEY MUST ATTRACT YOU!!! If you are not ready to eat then don’t fish! Hey I am roughing it too! It is not easy AT ALL and if someone told you that THEY ARE TRULY LIYING!!!

We have to dress our minds for success otherwise our bodies won’t be attracted to it and ACTION JUST WON’T HAPPEN!!!
So Let’s Get Moving!!!! We have work to do! Out of maybe 7 participants to the “Shift Your Life” challenge ,2 have chosen to MOVE FORWARD and hire me as their coach to help them get MOVING! The challenge was only to awaken your subconscious and make you itch a little for success but choosing to go further will cause you to JUMP OUT OF YOUR SKIN TO WIN!!!

P.S. God Willing! See you on the other side of change because I no longer live in contemplation!Its not about Balance but it’s about a Harmonious Journey towards success!
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Your Mental Fitness Coach,
Ukhtee Walida-Herspiring Bizness-“It’s Time”

Add this to your daily diary entries!

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Let me cut right to the chase on this exciting news! I just found a way to spice up my diary and propel me into proactively achieving my goals!
Now some of you are probably already doing this but it sure is worth the share for those of you who don’t.

Will you allow me to share the secret with you that has changed the lives of so many successful people around the globe?

OK! COOL!!!
When you begin writing in your diary start with jotting down your emotional state or the mood you are currently in, the mood you were in for most of the day and what changed your mood, specifically. Now if you were in your current mood all day then elaborate on why you think you stayed in that mood and what would you have liked to have changed about your day if it was a negative mood.

Now, I know you are probably thinking, “Like this is not really all that exciting”. Well the first few days or week that you do this it may not mean much but by the next week it will start to make you wonder. After about a week I want you to start reading your entries and create a chart or just write about your findings. Do this weekly or bi-weekly ex: I have been miserable for over 3 days and it was all because I did not get to workout in the mornings and I was too tired to workout in the evenings when I got home. This helps you to pinpoint exactly where you mood changes and how often it is occuring. If it is positive then you want to keep doing whatever you were doing and if it was negative you want to anazlyze it further and come up with solutions to make a shift in your emotional state.

It’s the natural order of things. When we feel good then we want to do good for ourselves and when we feel bad then we begin to lose hope. Having a positive emotional state gives us the drive we need to reach our goals in every way possible!

Its Been a Long Time!

a womans strengthSooooo… It’s been a while since I have been posting to my blog and it is due to some very big changes taking place in my life! I am so excited about all the changes that have been taking place and have to be careful that i dont trip trying to get to my laptop to share my journey with you all!

January 2015- I met an amazing man from The Gambia! He is Mandingo and speaks an array of languages!
she moved onMarch 2015- We got married and I have never had such a beautiful gathering in my entire life up until then! It was amazingly awesome! Delicious, mouth watering, Gambian food(Benichin and Dibi-Lamb and Rice), beautiful Gambian sisters and family as well as my NY and NJ family, Entertainment till almost midnight and just a lot of dua being made for my zawj and I.
October 2015- Joined a sisters group called Compassionate Women as part of an organization called Compassion in Action(www.compassioninaction.org) in Newark,NJ
October 2015- Co-Founded a group called Task Force For At Risk Youth-Consists of Muslim Professionals in the area of Counseling, Education, Mentorship,Psychology, Business and Life Coaching working towards a common goal and vision to help the youth become the best version of themselves! Members are from the tri state area, Maryland,and Georgia. One of our biggest projects involves a movement to travel to Ghana with 10 girls and 5 boys in July 2016. https://www.facebook.com/American-Youth-Ambassadors-to-Ghana-Sankofa-Program-1556968381288381/?sk=timeline&app_data
November 2015- I gave birth to a Mandingo Prince who is making my day EVERYDAY!!! He is such an amazing baby!Alhamdulilah!He is number 7 in my tribe of now 4 boys and 3 girls! I really am starting to wonder how I gave birth and are trying to raise this many children! Amazing!Allahu Akbar!
December 2015- We had an awesome Aqiqa(naming ceremony) for my little Prince! Sooo much fun and again DUAS for him to live a very good and upright life!
This was also a sad time for me because in this month my father returned to Allah! I was so in shock and disbelief but I tok my time and accepted Allahs decree. I am still not settled but I am okay except for when I have really cool ideas and just want to talk to my dad about it and get his insight or when I just want to hear my dad’s voice again reminding me of Allah and also giving me hope as a mother! I miss him so much words cannot express! So I ask that you all pray that Allah widen his grave, illuminate his grave, show him his place in jannah, grant him jannatul firdaus, forgive him, reward him, protect him gfrom the fire and from the torture of the grave-Ameen!
women in workshopFebruary 2016- I opened up my workshop series production, ‘It’s Time’, once again by facilitating the first workshop called “Winning from Within in Newark, NJ at the Compassion In Action. The turn out was great and the women left in good spirit!
March 2016- My editor has sent me my manuscript to re-read and make any adjustments and that has been going well so I look forward to finally publishing this book that I feel is taking me FOREVER TO FINISH! LOL! The title is called ‘Permission To Win’. I am also learning to speak Mandinka because I plan to visit Gambia soon In shaa Allah!
WHAT ELSE? WHAT ELSE? WHAT ELSE? I KNOW RIGHT?
Anywayz be on the look out for some more exciting stuff! I will be posting my journey a little more now so you wont want to miss out! Let me inspire you with my stories if that is all I can do! I will be happy to know that you were able to get out your funk and start moving towards your better! You can do it! I know you can! I want you to win!This post may not be for everyone but it is for someone out there!!! If it is you let it lift you up and off the bottom where you have been shrinking yourself not knowing where to go or how to move. You got this gurl!
Salaams for now and I only hope to drop by and inspire you again!
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Are you a Single Mompreneur?

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Are you a single mother who has ventured upon entrepreneurship and is just feeling like you don’t hold valuable skills? You have to know that you hold just as many valuable skills as a married woman , if more. Does multitasking, feeding your 6 month old and helping your 5 year old spell this week’s spelling words sound familiar? How about buying groceries to last for two weeks until you get paid again while keeping your car filled with gas? If that is not something familiar then how about trying to get 3 of your children to three different places in less than 15 or 20 minutes. You know how teenagers are! They make plans and want to be chauffered all over town like you are their personal taxi! How about when you have to figure out how much money will be left to pay bills after buying your teenage son shoes because he now wears a size 11 after only a few months? How about attending parent/teachers night at two different schools on the SAME DAY after having tough time getting your infant to rest during nap time and now you are totally exhausted and barely see straight? How do you manage sibling rivalry while you are on an important phone call? And last but not least, how do you manage chores when you have 4 teenagers who would rather be stuck in their room, playing sports, hanging out with their friends, watching televison etc?

Give your self a nice pat on the back after you have thanked God for all that you are able to do and still function daily! My goodness! Why on earth would you short change ourself for what you really are capable of doing? You hold some of the most valuable skills that most people wish they had naturally. Realize that some of the most valuable skills you hold are creativity, multitasking, managing, operating on a budget and problem solving!

Take a few moments to realize what you do and to notice how valuable it is to your business. Start by listing some tasks that you do for your family and jot down next to each task a business activity that it resembles(ie. managing, mareting etc…) Before you know it , the next time you are combing your daughters hair or droppping your kids off to sports practices you might think twice about how valuable these skill are to your business.

HB’s Tips for Tuesday

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Running a biz while raising kids can be very overwhelming at times. Here is a tip that may keep your head above water…

Set aside time for yourself- Knowing that you are important and that you need to be token care of too is something that can be quite difficult for many women who are business owners or work outside of the home. Women often take care of everyone and everything else before checking in with themselves. They are afraid that things will fall apart if the are not in control of them! The truth of it all is that if they do not take care of themselves THEY WILL FALL APART and most likely everything and everyone will be alright! Start today by treating yourself to a pedicure and manicure, a nice bag, a pair of shoes, a massage, a nice hot bath infused with essential oils, a cup of your favorite tea, etc…

Monday Motivation

One of the greatest pieces of advice given by the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) was: “The most beloved actions to Allah are those performed consistently, even if they are few.” [Sahih Bukhari]

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