Are you a reactive or proactive person? Let me give you a brief background of both. To be reactive it means that you wait for life to happen. When an event occurs then you scurry and run wild like a chicken without a head trying to fix whatever has gone wrong in hopes that it will not happen again! Sooner than you think you are back at doing the same thing you hoped not to do and it has become repetitive and frustrating! You don’t bother to plan accordingly you just wait and hope. On the other hand,to be proactive it means that you think about what you can do about situations by studying patterns.Patterns are apparent when you are focused and determined. For example,in the past you may have driven your car until it was empty on gas just thinking you could go just a few more miles.Your car was always running out of gas often and you were always getting stuck on the road and having to call someone for help. You did this quite often and heard others repeatedly say “you need to get it together”. You even thought, “there is nothing I can really do about it”! That was the reactive side of you! Now to make the switch to being proactive you may realize that there was a pattern involved with how you dealt with the situation and the outcome was always undesirable. Your speech now is “I will figure out a way to keep my car filled with gas by filling my tank on Sundays and put at least $20 in the tank every Thursday so I won’t have to worry about running out of gas”. You even take it a step further by budgeting $60 a week for gas and put the money aside just for that. You have a plan in place and not just one plan but maybe two or three. You anticipate what will occur, to some degree, and plan according to the outcome you desire. Now we know that we do not have total control over any outcome but as a proactive person you seek the one that makes sense and put forth your best effort and put your trust in Allah because He has total control.
You see, being proactive means you take full responsiblity for what happens to you. Simply put, YOU MAKE LIFE HAPPEN FOR YOU! You don’t sit around finding excuses to stay stuck in situations and blame others for what happens or what goes wrong. You know that only you can truly plan and take action to change ypur circumstances. You are not choosing to complain, but willing to TAKE ACTION to make your situation better.
Here are a few questions you may want to take a close look at when shifting from a reactive life to one that is proactive.
How do you view the world around you?
Do you easily become annoyed with situations beyond your control?
Do you believe that you are responsible for what happens to others?
Do you think you are responsible for what happens to you?
Are you willing to give up worrying about things that you have no control over?
What can you do in your life that would bring about change?
When are you willing to start?
Who can you trust to help hold you accountable?
Am I willing to get help when needed?
Am I willing to “keep on keepng on” when I get stuck instead of giving up?
Over the last 10 years up until recently women have been moving toward high paying careers, higher education post grad school, and entrepreneurship all while being wives or single mothers and raising children.
According to an infographic about the increasing rate of breadwinning moms at http://www.citytowninfo.com,they are becoming the primary breadwinners of over 40 percent of households in America with children under the age of 18. It is probably no surprise to you that, among these women, there are more breadwinning women single than married. Single mothers really have no choice when it comes to who will provide for the household! On the other hand, married women are either stay at home mothers who choose to work from home by establishing a home based business or have full-time employment outside of the home.
If you are a single mother and trying to make ends meet this information may give you relief to know that almost half of the households in America are single mothers raising children and bringing home the bread! YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Don’t give up hope.
If you are a stay-at home mother or work full-time at a job then this information may lead you to want to dig deeper to know why so many women are working and more fathers are staying at home. The roles of men and women are switching way too much for me personally! Your research may bring about new possibilities for you and your family. Maybe it will motivate and empower you to start a business or transform your home based business into a family business to supplement your husband’s income so that he can stay in his role rather than switching roles with you because employers are willing to offer you more. These days almost everybody is looking to have financial freedom and more time with family so it would greatly benefit us to start looking at all of this from another perspective than to just give up and switch roles.
Men were created to maintain and protect women and children!
Allah says: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Allah has preferred one with over the other and because of what they spend to support them from their wealth.” [Sûrah al-Nisâ’: 34]
I am beginning Mubarakah Fatologist Ibrahim‘s Fit Muslimah 40 Day Challenge!
May Allah give me the ability to stay the course and finish whatever I start if it shall benefit me in this dunya and in the Ahkirah-Ameen!
Here is how my Day 1 looks- Alhamdulilah!
So Far… Prayed Fajr
1. Dhikr- Subhanallahi Wa Bi Hamdihi 100x
2. 30 minutes- exercise
100 bicycle crunches
50 Russian Twists
50 Straight Punches
10 shoulder Rolls
10 neck rolls
3 minute face massage
7 minute “Tummy Talk” and massage
3. Now on to drinking my lemon water in shaa Allah I will drink 1 gallon today!
Let’s Get It Beloveds!!!
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What’s your “WHY”? I mean the “WHY” for starting your own business venture instead of waking up in the mornings rushing to get to get to that J.O.B.(Just Over Broke) position that you dread soooo much but fear losing it because it’s what pays the bills! Granted, it does pay the bills but it also gives you stress which could lead to higher costs in trips to the doctor and other medical expenses should your conditions worsen and call for it. I mean it is not just as easy as 1-2-3 to get up and say “I quit” and feel good about it because then there is that “reality check ” that will kick in when you find yourself low on food, backed up on rent, receiving shutoff notices for your utilities, with no phone service, etc..
Now here is what I am saying…You Must Have A Plan for how you will get out of that J.O.B.(Just Over Broke) position and Fire Your Boss but even before that You Must Have A Strong Why and a Clear Vision.
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The 2013 State of Women-Owned Businesses Survey revealed the following about why women decided to start their own businesses
1. They had a vision for a business idea or a passion for solving a specific industry problem
2. They wanted control or a more flexible work-life balance
3. They felt like they were in the right place at the right time.
When women were asked what the biggest motivation for starting their business, the most common answer was
1. 28% indicated that they were following their vision
2. 21% indicated that their vision was followed by finding an idea that allowed them to become an entrepreneur
The survey also found that the most important traits for running a successful business are
1.Having a passion for an idea
2. Having a vision to succeed long-term after the business is launched
3. Having the willingness and attitude to fail before you succeed and to take risks
I hope these statistics were helpful to you all! Maybe this will boost your confidence about starting your own business in the next year or so. Sometimes we are more frightened by what we don’t know rather than what we think we know!
Great Day Beloveds,
As women in business we often find ourselves struggling to keep personal life, family life and business life in balance. We are the “Asiyyah of all trades.” Raising children, keeping the household in order,keeping up with our marital duties, keeping up with our spiritual duties, working, running a business, going to school, spending “Me” time to renew ourselves, and spending time with our loved ones and friends can be such a struggle to balance.
As a life coach and business coach for women I often hear stories that make me cringe at the thought that I can never really help them get it together. The only thing I can do is provide proven techniques/tools, motivation, encouragement, and an ear without judgement when they are struggling to achieve their goals. God is in control ultimately and that is what I make a point of to each and every one of my clients. I remind them that they have limited control and that attaching themselves to a desired outcome will leave them frustrated when things do not go as planned. I make sure to tell them that all they need to do is do their part, do the best that they can do, and God takes care of the outcome.
Particularly, in the area of business, women find themselves going nuts and losing much needed sleep at the thought that things are just never going to go right after an unplanned event causes an obstacle in their business. it just throws everything else off. They end up spending more time trying to prevent or fix the problem and less time with family and friends and even paying attention to themselves for fear of never getting things back on track in their business. I remind them that sometimes obstacles happen for good things to take place but more importantly they made need to take a break away from it all to come back rejuvenated and with a fresh mind. Neglecting everything else to get one area of your life in order can cause more disaster than expected. This work/life balance ordeal is pretty hard and we all must work day by day because it is not something you can just plan and hope to make it work only one time. You have to keep trying different methods until you find what works best for you.
Andrea Jung , CEO of Avon, says “Sometimes as a leader of a growing organization you have to fire yourself on Friday and hire yourself on Monday with fresh eyes.” I believe this is true in business but much more true to expand this thought for other areas of your life as well for a balanced effect!
My dear beloveds it would be such a pleasure to hear more stories of women taking a break from all they do daily to unwind and come back renewed! I speak to myself first!
Digest #1-Program What You Say!
Determine what your chief aim is in life. Only you and The Creator know what you truly want. Tell yourself that you can achieve what you desire, by His permission. You must begin to program this statement so that it becomes part of your behavior daily. Our behavior is often a reflection of our thoughts/attitudes. So if you “think you can” say “I can” and begin to ACT!!! Nothing is evident without action!