Wow! I just realized the title of this post and remember how I felt the day I asked that same question! It was almost like asking can I really find a needle in a haystack? Like this thing must surely be impossible and only happens to some folks because they are in the right place at the right time doing the right thing. Girl please! Let me say to you how I found out that whatever crazy thought I had about those who actually found their passion was so far from the truth.
I knew that truly my passion could be found but I was doing things that actually kept me far from finding it or them( trust me when you ignite . passion it’s like touching a beehive only you ain’t running away but instead you are trying to get stung so you can really feel like it’s happening)
WHAT ON EARTH WAS I DOING?
Well pretty much thinking and thinking and dreaming and dreaming and then imagining how it would be if I could…
Well that is what I did sitting at my desk for hours. I would even call myself taking action to find this thing called passion, by watching videos on YouTube and Vimeo about what I was so fired up about but none of this actually set off the ” Ah haa” button and it left me drained, exhausted, and still frustrated daily. Girl I was saying yes to any requests from my kids while sitting down with snacks and drinks to keep me awake when I was ” looking for my passion”! Whew! That was some journey.
One fine day in the Spring a few years ago I realized that I needed to really find out what it was that I really enjoyed doing and I needed to feel like I could not help doing it and it would make me lose sleep so I started showing up in places where women, especially mothers, would be and talking to them in general about life or something that they wanted to conversate about. I always found myself in a situation where I was talking the woman out of giving up on herself because she thought she was not good enough and not being daring enough to start a business or write a book because she felt she was not qualified enough and she had too many personal and family problems going on.
I could not sleep when I would get calls from various women of all backgrounds seeking to just have someone listen to them without judgement and offering support when they thought they were crazy for wanting to start a business or feeling like giving up was the only option because they were mentally and emotionally drained. It felt like I was a human magnet! I was afraid of my own self because I too thought that I was not qualified or good enough to help anyone. I was going through a rough marriage and I was almost always without enough money. I know I could have just used the word “Broke”, but I don’t use the word broke in my vocabulary when it comes to my wealth because I feel like I won’t attain wealth if my mind ain’t attracting wealthy thoughts and I am my first influence). I only hope you understand me!( smile)
Let’s get right into how you can start taking some action to find your passion!
1. Clear your mind of what did not happen and what should happen in regards to your age.( girl this steals all the joy out of it and shuts you down …DON’T GO THERE)
2. Get a pen and pad and start writing down the times when you were engaging and/or helping people and you really enjoyed it and everything about it seemed to glitter like gold and cause you too have that gut burning, I can’t help myself, sensation. Meter your excitement in each 1 on a scale of 1-3 ( 3 being over the top excited and emotionally overjoyed, can’t sleep without thinking of it, and can’t wait to do it again)
3. Circle 3 of the highest metered ones and ask yourself 3 questions
A. Was I excited or was it really just that the moment called for excitement
B Would I do this on my own time even if I did not get anything in return or any compensation for it?
C. How soon will I be ready to explore this excitement again?
D. When am I going to do this( date, place, and time)
GO FOR IT! Get up and experience that again or something similar to it! Only this time think about how you can create opportunities that allow you to feel driven and motivated to take action and do the thing you absolutely love, love, love to do! If you can’t that might mean either its something that is too difficult to do given your temporary circumstances or you just don’t have the same drive and motivation as you thought you would have the second or maybe 3rd time around. Choose another thing on your list and repeat the process.
If you would like to hear more about finding your passion and starting/growing a business I have just the right thing for you!
Join me and few other boss moms over at my Bmoms Virtual Business Boot Camp which is going in now until March 28( it’s a 9 week course that meets virtually once a week and engages in a private Facebook group)
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Peace, love, and hijab(modesty)
Ukhtee Walida-The Boss Moms Coach
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