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Move Like FIYA(Fear is Your Ally)!!!

fearAbout 2 weeks ago I started a facebook community to support, inspire, motivate and empower sisterpreneurs to MAKE IT HAPPEN IN BIZNESS!!! If you are a part of this community or have been stopping by to check us out, then you know what we have been up to lately and you also know how it has been so exciting to watch sisters transform in a matter of days! These sisters are stepping up, showing up, and shining their light! This community is not just your regular facebook group page, well at least we are all working to make sure of that.

Last week I challenged everyone to post a 60 second video about their businesses and it has just been amazing to watch each sister step into their light! Some of them are still contemplating but I just know they are gonna come out of their shell because the high energy is quite contagious! We are all posting inspiration and tips to support one another and one of the things I will begin to do are, live video posts discussing topics related to business and mental fitness. If you are reading this post then perhaps, you are someone who is just waiting for the green light/permission to step into your light! It’s time you own your talents and realize that they were not even given to you FOR YOU but they were given to you because YOU must deliver solutions to others who NEED EXACTLY what you have! Yes you have fears but those fears can actually help you move through to your success if you pay close attention and make them your allies. Know your fears acknowledge them and look for ways to overcome them. If you are not clear on how to do all of this hire a coach. We are pretty good at helping you push through and getting you to truly OWN YOUR SUCCESS!!! Plant your two feet firmly in the ground, put your trust in Allah, get the support you need, challenge yourself, and don’t even think of quitting because It’s time to move like FIYAH(Fear is Your Ally)!!!

“If Allah helps you, none can overcome you: If He forsakes you, who is there, after that, that can help you? In Allah, then, let believers put their trust.” [Qur’an Chapter 3 Verse 160]

See you on the other side of change because I no longer live in contemplation!

Your Mental Fitness Recovery Coach and Business Coachsultant,
Ukhtee Walida-Herspiring Bizness- “It’s Time”

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5 Ways to a More Positive Mind

think-positiveNow I am sure you have experienced many ups and downs as you journey through your valley of becoming successful in business. Let’s Face It!!!! You know that it can be so overwhelming to the point you may even feel like quitting!!! Your eyes are swollen from staying up late at night, your head is bulging with pain from trying to strategize all night, your fingers are probably tired of you banging on your keyboard searching for ways to just get ahead, or you have this feeling in your gut that you just are not cut out for all of this entrepreneur stuff! You may even decide that you have wasted a lot of valuable time doing all that you have done so far!

Let me share something with you before you decide to arch your eyebrows and clinch your fists in rage because nothing seems to be going right or you cannot reach your desired goals in business. I had an idea to do just what I am doing about 6 years ago while suffering from emotional abuse in a toxic marriage. Why am I sharing this with you and how does this have anything to do with ways to stay positive as an entrepreneur? Well I will let you know that I had spent many nights crying to The Creator about how I just hated my situation so much I wanted to die and that I needed a clear way to come up from the extreme low that I was feeling daily. Now you might wonder how I decided that starting a business would be my way to freedom but that is no big mystery.

I knew that I was feeling like crap everyday and that the last ten years of my life at that point were filled with misery upon misery. I just wanted to help other women move through their misery and I thought by helping them I would heal myself as well. It started out as a business helping others in business but then I realized I had more of a natural way of helping women overcome misery in their personal lives. This is what led me to become a Life Coach and eventually a Mental Fitness Recovery Coach. I knew that if I could empower these women who shared a similar background with me to want to be in a better place mentally, emotionally and spiritually they would not feel so bankrupt. I also knew after two years of working with them that they also needed to be financially stable to feel strong enough to make changes to their lives. Money is not everything but it is a means to have access to so much. This is why I went on to become Certified as a Business Coach. The point is that I would not have ever been able to do any of this if I maintained a negative state of mind day in and day out. I had to turn in my victim card and put on my SURVIVOR GARMENTS because I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. You see you find your strength in your storms and it is wise if you use them to take advantage of the many opportunities that are around you.

Okay I have shared with you some of what I went through to become who I am today and now I would like to share with you the ways I had to stay positive in my journey in order to get there. I struggle hard to practice these ways of being positive as much as I can because it is possible to have a relapse if I don’t!

1). Follow Your Inner GPS to Joy– Realize what makes you joyful and do just that. Keep Ask yourself “What makes me feel joy?” I had to dig deep because I had lost myself through all of my unhappiness but I arrived at some beautiful things that make me feel joy and I try to do them often.

2). Manage your stress- It is all about how you carry your burdens rather than the weight of them. God does not give us anything we cannot bear. He is The Creator and He knows what we can handle so remember that the load is not there to harm you but there is some wisdom in it. We just need to ask for the way to handle it and be patient at it’s onset. Strategies to relieve stress are plentiful so you have to find what works best for you and do it often. (Reading, Drawing, Taking a long bath with some essential oils, Foot soak etc…)

3). Know where you are going and STAY THE COURSE!- When you have goals in place it becomes easier to achieve success. Be consistent, stay motivated, Don’t Give Up!!! It’s just that simple!

4). Get right back up after falling and don’t look back!- Yes sometimes you will win and sometimes you will fail  but be prepared knowing that the only way to truly make a home run is to fall a couple of times and get back up! It is in the getting back up that you will find your way to success. Persistence and Consistence. Keep moving despite your obstacles in business. You have to want this bad enough to lose a little along the way!! Sometimes you have to get a setback but know that it is only temporary and you should set yourself up for a strong comeback!

5).“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” — Jim Rohn, American entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker

Yes it is important to know that if you spend time with people who are either moving in the same direction you are moving or are where you want to be you will move closer to your success in a much quicker and less stressful way. You can’t hang with people that complain all day but do nothing about their circumstances  if you want to make a real shift in your circumstances. You want success hang with successful people!

I only hope this article helps you to realize how important it is to have a positive mindset.. It has been reported that people like us, entrepreneurs, often feel like breaking at the onset of stress and failure. We tend to  become bankrupt in our journey from giving to others and neglecting our self growth.

See you on the other side of change because I no longer live in contemplation!

Your Mental Fitness Recovery Coach, Business Coach

Ukhtee Walida