Do feel like you want to just pull your hair out?
Are you feeling overwhelmed by work, school, kids, husband, wife, job, business etc…?
Do you want to grab that dark chocolate candy bar because you just feel so overwhelmed and the feeling is just making you hungry?
Do want to just pull the covers back over your head and sleep the day away?
Do feel revengeful because someone has wronged you and you cannot let it go?
These feelings and others similar to them are only your body undergoing stress. We react to stress by either avoiding or diffusing a situation(flight) or by behaving aggressively/violently(fight)!
According to Wikipedia.org it states that
“the fight response may be manifested in angry, argumentative behavior, and the flight response may be manifested through social withdrawal, substance abuse, and even television viewing.
Males and females tend to deal with stressful situations differently. Males are more likely to respond to an emergency situation with aggression (fight), while females are more likely to flee (flight), turn to others for help, or attempt to defuse the situation – ‘tend and befriend’. During stressful times, a mother is especially likely to show protective responses toward her offspring and affiliate with others for shared social responses to threat”.(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fight-or-flight_response)
Stress is a part of life but it is a choice to allow it to negatively affect your life. similarly pain is a part of life but suffering is a choice. We have to learn to manage our stress so that it can release the tension that it causes on our central nervous system. Our central nervous system is the area of our body that receives unbalanced blood supply when we are stressed. The central nervous system prepares our bodies for response to stress, also known as, “fight or flight”. It oversees and controls the body’s overall reaction to stress.
According to research, the amount of stress one experiences depends on one’s perception of the situation and one’s ability to control it. When your body feels threatened by external stimuli it automatically reacts. It stays in this mode for some time until the body feels safe then it returns back to it’s normal state. When the body does not turn back to it’s normal state and this happens, very often, it becomes a threat to your health. Health issues that may arise as a result of the body being subjected to constant stress are frequent colds,constipation,chest pain,irritability, poor judgement, anxiety, oversleeping,etc…</p It is totally impossible to eliminate stress but it can, and should be managed to give your body the proper care it needs. When you manage stress you allow the other body systems to resume their functions, after being suspended while you were stressed.
No matter how severe you perceive your circumstance to be and how depressed or stressed you are, never give up on Allah! Remember Prophet Yaqub’s statement to his son’s on hearing what they had told him of his son Yusuf?
“He said: “I complain of my distress and grief to Allah Alone and I know from Allah what you do not know.”(12:86)
And remember what Allah says in Qur’an about those who are steadfast when afflicted with adversity!
Allah says …
“Be sure we will test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives, but give glad tidings to those who are steadfast, who say when afflicted with calamity: To God we belong and to him is our return. They are those on who (DESCEND) blessings from God and mercy and they are the ones that receive guidance. (2:155)
Some ways to manage stress, InshaaAllah(If God Wills)
1.Begin to take full responsibility for the decisions you make in your life. Stop pointing fingers.
2.Plan how you will work to remove your stress(dhikr,salah,meditation, exercise, yoga)
3.Transfer your worries into duas and take action on what you do have control over. Stop focusing your attention on things you have no influence or control over. Allah is in total control and He is Al Wakil(The Disposer of Affairs)
4.Put your trust in Allah
5.Guard your salaah
6.Wake up with gratitude after sleeping(say the dua that Prophet Muhammad said upon waking up)
7.End your days in the remembrance of Allah(reading/reciting Qur’an)