What Are you saying???

Digest #1-Program What You Say!

Determine what your chief aim is in life. Only you and The Creator know what you truly want. Tell yourself that you can achieve what you desire, by His permission. You must begin to program this statement so that it becomes part of your behavior daily. Our behavior is often a reflection of our thoughts/attitudes. So if you “think you can” say “I can” and begin to ACT!!! Nothing is evident without action! 

So What is Personal Growth and Development???

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The meaning of personal growth and development is quite simple but can sound a bit tricky!

My definition of personal growth and development is learning how to discover your true self and begin living to your maximum potential!

What is a personal growth and development coach?

A personal growth and development coach is that person who works alongside you in your journey to reach your goals. Here are a few things that a personal growth and development coach can do for someone who is looking to begin achieving their goals but need some help.

*They will hold you accountable and help you hold yourself accountable.

*They provide proven ways to help you uncover the real person you are.

*Help with goal setting and action planning.

*They are your cheering squad and push you beyond your limits.

My goal as a personal growth coach is to  help you uncover the motivated, inspired, confident, and successful driven person that you have been sheltering for fear of failing and the fear of standing out and being judged by others.

What do you want out of your life?

What obstacles are in your way?

Do you possess negative inner dialogue or negative emotional habits?

When you learn how to  discover yourself, remove obstacles, develop positive inner dialogue and emotional habits you begin to really understand your true potential. This is when possibilities appear! potential.

It takes great courage to focus on your personal growth and development.

Why?

It forces you to take a good look at yourself in all areas of your life and make improvements. You also become more committed to addressing any issues concerning these areas of your life. This journey starts with the idea of making the decision to succeed, “By Any Means Necessary” as said by brother El Hajj Malik Shabazz, choosing to act in spite of your fear of failure, and cleaning out your circle of influence(removing those who don’t believe in your success).
so with all of this…
What inspires you maore than anything else in the world?
Are you willing to do what it takes to develop the confidence you need to reach your goals?
How do you really feel about A.C.T.I.O.N(MY BREAKDOWN OF THIS WORD IS …Acquiring The Confidence To Initiate Opportunity Now)Personal Growth and Development will display the unbelievable power that your thoughts have on what actually happens to you/in your reality. It will give your techniques to help you make an immediate shift in your thoughts but you have to stick to the plan and be obedient to the discipline.

With Peaceful Success,

Walida

Herspiring Biz

www.herspiringbizness.yolasite.com

The Road to Success!

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Many of us want success but are still trying to find the right formula. The formula exists but you have to do the work because without action it’s pointless. Look below at an easy 4 step process to achieving success;

1. You must have a definite major purpose-this is knowing ultimately what you want to achieve.

2.Meditate- go to a quiet place where you can get into a peaceful relaxed state. This is a way to connect with your subconscious.

3. Visualize- Routinely become the person you desire to be. Imagine that you are their already and you are working from you achieved goal. Sounds impossible? Well it is actually but the more you do this the better your subconscious is at accepting the new you,inshaaAllah!
Ask yourself …What exactly would I be doing if I achieved my goal and how would I feel(of course we do not know but we may imagine the details even down to the smell of the atmosphere, who are your supporters, what will you be wearing etc. etc. etc.

4. Take Massive Action to get desired results or new yet exciting possibilities. Ask yourself… What can I do today with the skills I have already acquired?

These 4 steps, if done with prayer, perseverance, sincerity and consistency can bring you an abundance of success, all by the permission of Allah(God). Once you are clear about what you truly desire it becomes easier to focus on how to achieve it. The mind is triggered by your conscious thought followed by focus so that it will give the body clues to act on. Affirmations-positive statements that you say to yourself in order to feed your subconscious, are a great way to start! Remember to speak good about yourself and your abilities. The Creator is merciful and He promises to change the condition of His creation when they have changed it in themselves(in their hearts).

Try this: say “I am ready to change what is in my heart seeking Allah’s blessings. He(Allah) is sufficient for me and The Disposer of all my affairs”
“Verily, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves”(~Qur’an 13:11 )

With Peaceful Success
Walida
Herspiring Biz

The Heart and Forgiveness

Sahih Bukhari, Volume:1  Book :2 Number :49, Narrated An-Nu’man bin Bashir:
I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, ‘Both legal and illegal things are evident but in between them there are doubtful (suspicious) things and most of the people have no knowledge about them. So whoever saves himself from these suspicious things saves his religion and his honor. And whoever indulges in these suspicious things is like a shepherd who grazes (his animals) near the Hima (private pasture) of someone else and at any moment he is liable to get in it. (O people!) Beware! Every king has a Hima and the Hima of Allah on the earth is His illegal (forbidden) things. Beware! There is a piece of flesh in the body if it becomes good (reformed) the whole body becomes good but if it gets spoilt the whole body gets spoilt and that is the heart.

As Salaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatulahi Wa Barakatuh!

Dear Beloveds,

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I want to share something that I have struggled with for some years. First off we must understand that as humans, we all make mistakes. We were created in perfect form but we were not created to be perfect in our actions. On the other hand,we must strive for excellence and perfection in performing good deeds and worshipping The Creator. It is not befitting for us to dwell on mistakes or how others have wronged us. It is better to ask for forgiveness and to forgive others.

We often hold on to the pain and hurt we feel after someone has wronged us because it seems like we are getting revenge. What we really are doing is oppressing ourselves and imprisoning ourselves. The one who has wronged us continues to bring us pain because we give them the permission to. It is almost comparable to stubbing your toe and expecting someone else to feel the pain. They cannot feel your pain nor will they try to because it brings no benefit to them. Therefore, you may not want to hold the grudge because it does not benefit you either. Yes, it seems hard to let go of all that you have been holding on to because you have held it so close to you and it has become part of how you live your life. You may have your guard up , for everything, because you have let this resentment govern your life totally.

I will share with you that I have experienced all of this. At the tender age of 12, I stepped into an unknown world where the only that mattered to me was how to escape the pain and hurt I felt and the misunderstood perceptions others had of me. I did not have anyone to reach out to and did not care to find anyone due to my fear of how others would judge me. I stayed in this dark tunnel for several years of my life, a little more than two decades! I nearly panicked at the thought of anyone finding out about my darkness. I hated the person who wronged me because I felt like they stole a huge piece of me and my future. I felt like I was not going to achieve anything and that I would live a life in darkness for the rest of my life until the day I would return to The Creator. I thought when I entered adulthood and marriage my life would change but, to my surprise, I was wrong. I nearly survived a marriage that would introduce me to even more darkness for the over 13 years  (inshaaAllah,read about my story in my upcoming book “My Flight To Live”).

What I have learned is that when we hold resentment it clutters the space in our hearts leaving it dark and un-open to change. We find it almost impossible to move forward! I spent the last 2 years ,2011-2012, working to clean my clutter because I had enough and could not withstand the constant pain or imprisonment I was inflicting on myself. I started to move toward light by implementing a few practices in my life that I believe has helped me and is still helping move forward towards a life of happiness and fulfillment!

Here is what I did:

1. I revisited traumatic events in my life. Meditation helps when you want to remember past events,people,places, etc… I really did not call it meditation at the time I just sat still during some parts of the day thinking back to the time of the many tragedies that took place in my life.

2. I asked Allah to forgive me for oppressing myself with holding resentment. I summed it up to self oppression because I suffered internally(asthma attacks at the very thought of what happened to me, panic attacks, border line diabetes, medical conditions that could have claimed my life while pregnant with my sixth child, confusion, low self esteem, lack of self confidence, anger, etc…) I realized that the pain was something inevitable but that suffering was a choice I continued to make after becoming an adult. No one had control over me I allowed the thoughts I harbored about what they did to me to control/govern my life. I had the power of choice but was not able to truly realize it because of the many years I carried resentment.

3. I wrote a letter in my diary forgiving those who I felt wronged me. I attempted to call one but that turned ugly. I actually was not ready ,and I knew it because my exact words were, “you owe me your entire life”! I slammed the phone down and never tried that again. I asked Allah to forgive them.

4. I begin to work on improving self perception. Eventhough, I had chose to forgive myself and others it did not erase how I thought about myself. I had spent two decades looking down on myself and my abilities. I needed to begin believing that I was capable of achieving goals that would lead to happiness and fulfillment in my life. I had to understand that change started with ME! I had to get to know who I truly am and my gifts/talents that were given to me by Allah.

5. I increased my salah. I would often wake up in the last hours of the night to pray tahajjud salah. These were the most tranquil times for me! The stillness of the atmosphere was priceless! All praises due to Allah! I treasured these precious moments!
6. I learned a couple of duas – especially durood -prayers sending blessings upon Prophet Muhammad(saw).