So here we are, we can definitely feel good about the steps we have taken up until now and i will tell you why! Most often people fail to move forward in reaching their goals because they begin to fear THE OUTCOME! Yes what will be the result and if the result is not what they expected!
I became very interested some time ago in knowing what makes individuals fear THE OUTCOME! I have found that individuals refuse to take action on reaching their goals because they fear the outcome. Results are unknown and unpredictable.It would take them out of their comfort zones something they are familiar with. The first point i would like to share is that NO ONE can ever WIN OR LOOSE a race if they don’t run. REALIZE that you don’t have control over anything. The Creator is in control of everything. You make the decision and take the necessary steps but you don’t have 100% guarantee of a desired result. You cannot win at everything ALL THE TIME!!! The winner has to loose at least once and the loser has to win at least once because no one and nothing is 100% perfect. It is what gives us the opportunity to improve ourselves or processes.
In fact I will share this with you!
In high school I ran track-n-field. I was a sprinter and won many awards and medals in my days. There was one thing that always haunted me though! I feared coming in 2nd or 3rd place so i would always position my self ,a certain way, in the starting blocks thinking somehow, some way, it gave me the advantage of winning first place. It worked every time actually until,one day, I realized something about a team mate of mine who was going to run next to me and the fact that we, almost always, differed by a 1 or 2 seconds at the finish line. I always won but this one time I could almost feel failure coming. What was making me feel this way?The cold air i was feeling from the air conditioning? This was normal and always expected at an indoor track meet. This was not the reason why! My teammate did not get in her starting blocks till after I positioned myself in mine,something she had never really done before!. I became uncomfortable and realized that there was a strong possibility of her winning. It looked as if she had been studying my style! The scary thing was that I was not so sure i was prepared to loose. You guessed it right!!! She won the race! Here is the lesson!! Always be prepared for failure and a little less comfortable with success. Plan for failures and be ready for success.Success can definitely blindfold you of the possibility of failure leaving you unprepared and open for disappointment if things don’t go as planned. Not preparing for failure may cause you to give up instead of realizing that it is an opportunity to learning from. It gives you a chance to evaluate yourself and “tweak your technique”. What I did not tell you was that …I stepped out of the race! Yes! I only did it because I was afraid of loosing! After the race, it made me look at life in a different way. I knew that if I wanted success at something I needed to expect and prepare for failure. I needed to stay in the race despite my fear of loosing because it may have been an opportunity for me to grow! or sharpen my technique! Taking Massive Action to overcome my fear meant running in the race!!!
Activity*- Think of something you really feel uncomfortable doing. Take massive action and just do it! Write down how you felt about it before and after? Example : Maybe you decline invitations to gatherings because you don’t feel comfortable in crowds and you end up sitting in a corner hoping none would see you never taking the opportunity to network and passing the time by. Maybe, the next time someone invites you,GO! Only this time you initiate a conversation with at least 2 or 3 people and talk about your business.