My “Never Perfect But Just Right” Summer Plan

img_20180127_144551It’s almost that time of year! You know that time when it’s really nice and on the way to really hot weather and you just feel like EVERYTHING IS TOO MUCH!!! Your kids will begin requesting your attention almost 24 hours of the day, noise will be on level 100 , hubby will be demanding attention because your probably with the kids 95% of the time, cleaning will be more than the normal,  you will be mediating fights between kids, and taking kids to and from camp or other Summer activities.

I know what it’s  like and I wanted to share how I have planned my “Never Perfect But Just Right” Summer as a Boss Mom! Girl get you a glass of cold lemonade, find a quiet spot, and grab yourself a pen and pad so you can jot down what you may want to try.

HERE IT GOES! GOD WILLING!!!

1.  I will start every morning by saying 3 emotions I feel, 3 things I am grateful for, and 3 ways I will be productive. I am praying this goes well and I will check in with myself every 3 days. I will set this notification in my calendar app “Talk Me Calendar”. Doing this now!

2. I will tell my children I love them at least once a day and tell them how honoured I feel to be their mother. I have 4 teenagers and though we sometimes tell them we love them they don’t believe it because they are going through some life transitions. In their world no body cares! Oh my goodness! I am wondering if I was like this !My little ones don’t really seen to worry to much! This is kinda hard for me because of my experience with abuse as a little girl so I will do my best because it will make me better and my children will feel better. I am just not an affectionate person.

3. I will only work during office hours and be present for myself,  my family and my friends on my OFF hours and days. This is something I was often neglecting because I did not know how to juggle everything and I was trying to do everything!

4. I am taking the W off my chest because being Wonder Woman is not cute too me any more. I will delegate tasks that I absolutely have no skill in by outsourcing to companies like fiverr.com, upwork.com, freelance.com, and other companies in other continents. Tim Ferris, author of “The 4 Hour Work Week”, says you can outsource things as small as text messaging and email correspondence right along with bigger stuff like website updating,  blog posting etc… for just pennies on the dollar with companies or individual freelancers in places like India.

5. I will travel and meet some new people. I will take a mini 2 day vacay somewhere where there is water. I love me some water! I am addicted to running water and just the ocean and any stream of water, even rivers. I am a Native New Yorker who now lives in North Jersey and hear that all of the beaches are in South Jersey so I will take a visit and do some writing by the water. I took my children to Pointe Pleasant beach about 2 Summers ago and we really enjoyed it. I would really like to rent a beach house for a week and just enjoy the calmness.

6. I will work on completing my BMoms Academy so that BOSS MOMS can finally get what they need in starting a business all in one spot with tips, hacks, and resources easily accessible and affordable.

7. I will support my fellow bossmuslimahs in our Facebook family group The Biz Bling Sisters Network by creating and posting content that will help them level up in business. I will also encourage them to post as well.

If you liked any one of my plans please write it down , send yourself a notification to remind you to actually Do it by using an app called “Talk Me Calendar”or any other app that can remind you. I know you want things to change for better and I also know that it takes some sacrificing.

Your days don’t have to be filled with just business because you have bills. You will continue to have bills as long as you are living. What you want to do is learn how to be confident and excited about your vision,  plan out how you will achieve your goals, take action even when it feels uncomfortable , get the support you need, and be as consistent as you can. When you are feeling good, business will be good! Don’t sacrifice your “Me Time”. It’s non-negotiable!

As a mother of 7  I know how chaotic it can get and how often “giving up”sounds like a good option but to be honest “Moms Don’t Get To Quit”(😉this a new book I am almost finished writing) but we do deserve to take breaks and take time out to do the things that we love so that we can come back refreshed and ready to do all that we do.

This is how I planned my “Not So Perfect but Just Right Summer” and I would love to hear how you will plan yours too!

Send some feedback and share this blog post with other Boss Moms you know!

P.S. I forgot to mention that I will be going to masjid Quba in Philly for the 3rd stop on my “Motivated Muslimah Empowerment Book Tour” June 23, 2018. I hope to see you there! If you want to purchase tickets go to http://bit.ly/2Lmy3P6. General admission cost you $0. You may want yo consider  purchasing a copy of Motivated Muslimah;Permission to Win to have signed at the event, because there will be a limited amount of copies available. You can do this by ordering at Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/1941919022/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_Ss9hBbA4T2DQX

Or

order at http://www.paypal.me/HBiz/20 by 6/12/18.

A portion of the proceeds from my book sales for the next 3 months are going towards my trip to The Gambia, Africa this year with my 2 year old son. The other portion of the proceeds will be used in my campaign to motivate 1000 Muslimah teens by providing workshops and other programs to give them the confidence they need to stand firm as a Muslimah in hijab despite the challenges they face.

Peace, love, and hijab Boss Moms,

Ukhtee Walida-The Boss Moms Coach

9 Strategies For Building Your Side Hustle While Working 9-5

officeI know you may have been working your buns off at your 9-5 for quite some time now or maybe you are a Job Hopper(you move from job to job in short amounts of time for various reasons). I also know that if you are in the above two categories and anything like me then you are just burning with desire to ignite your own passions and free yourself  from the employee space. You have been tired of ‘punching the clock” and giving your precious time to things that really don’t bring fulfillment to you. You want to change the way things are done around your job but it is not your place nor do you have the authority to do so. Maybe you thought of a better way to serve those clients. Maybe not the clients you see everyday at work but new ones. Those clients that you want to specifically serve from your own vision and mission. You find yourself day dreaming and just dreaming big about what you could do to impact the world and help transform peoples lives. Ok soooooo. what is holding you back?

If you are already in business then you have been already in this space of dreaming big and now you are trying to find ways to give less of your time to your 9-5 and more of it to your own vision. I got it! Don’t lose hope in either sense, instead think of what is important to you and move with a sense of urgency about it. Building your side hustle takes work and you must be working it like there is no tomorrow. Besides, we are not guaranteed time so don’t make excuses about your vision it is time to do whatever it takes to see it come to fruition. There are people waiting on you and it’s not fair to just make them wait and its not fair to you to have all of  what you have to offer and keep living with it on the inside of you. It’s like you live an entire life and never step into your greatness! Leave a legacy because you know that it is rewarded after you make your transition to the next life. People can benefit from your work and it can continue to bring you reward. Okay! Excuse me! Sorry I get in my rants when I am in the space of empowering people so the passion is deep! Did you feel it? smile!

I did a live stream on Instagram yesterday @boss_moms_journey about this topic and received DM’s immediately after. All praise is due to God! I realized that this is what people are really looking for! They really want to know how to pull off this thing of working and building a business at the same time.  It’s sort of like trying to find ways to jump out of a boat in the middle of a lake without splashing the water. Yeah! It really is possible once you get to the shore but how does one do that without a paddle or even a life jacket that they think they don’t have because they are so afraid to just do it? That is the best example that I could come up with at this time! If you can relate, cool! If not, just keep reading ! I still love ya!

Okay so as promised in the title of this post, I am going to share a few strategies to help you build your side hustle while still at your 9-5.

Strategy 1. Trust the process, Know what you want, Know where you want to be, Know what it looks like. Create a vision board of what you really vision for your business in the near future

Strategy 2. Plan the process, Ask God for guidance. Know where you want to be by the end of the year, quarter, month, week, and day. This takes time but hiring a coach can help a great deal.(check out a few that I personally know besides myself, Ameenah Muhammad Diggins, Tahirah Taalib Din, Halimah DeOliveira, Yasmeen Abdur Rahman, Maniah Salaam, Fatima Omar)  You can find myself and these few sisters on Facebook and on Instagram if you are serious about getting a plan in place! Yes! Hire a coach to get that action plan in place. Know that you have to work the plan too! 90 day action plans are like diamonds. They help you shine! They give you quick successes and exposure to your target clients. A coach is not going to push you were you want to just be comfortable and hold you accountable to the goals and actions you have created. You have to find one that you mesh well with and get to work!

Strategy 3. Listen to your gut! Don’t count out those days where you feel that burning desire to make a difference and you can’t keep still! This feeling is real! Start writing down what you feel in a journal each time you get the feeling. You would be amazed at what is in that gut!

Strategy 4. Start paying close attention to your cash flow! You have to do it for real! Sacrifice some of those wants for needs. Save more. Spend less. Invest. Invest. Invest. Make sure that your investing in things that will give you a value added return in your business and in life.

Strategy 5. Don’t forget to pay yourself time and money! Like Yeah! Who wants to be doing all of this amazing work inspiring and transforming people and never have any time or money to enjoy themselves. Think about you and do it consistently! You want to give to others from an overflowing cup not an empty one!

Strategy 6. Farm-Out or Outsource your administrative tasks. You could be at work and have a virtual assistant send out an email or DM to your hot leads without you even touching your phone or laptop.  Try looking for freelancers who will do this for pennies on the dollar at upwork.com or fiverr.com. there are plenty more but I wanted to give you a start. A good book to read for this strategy is “The 4 Hour Work Week” by Timothy Ferris. I can’t put the book down!

Strategy 7. Not able to afford farming out at the moment? No problem. Try a few business apps to help you stay engaged with your target audience and respond to emails. Use  Mail Chimp(create email campaigns for a product or service you are providing), Hootsuite(schedule posting on all social media), Canva(make posts appealing by using graphics and relevant content), later(app by Instagram for scheduling posts), Bookedin, Calendly, Acuity Scheduling(the last 3 are for booking clients) These are only a few but there are more!

Strategy 8. Find an accountability partner or team or even a crazy tribe of people who believe in entrepreneurship. If you are a Muslim woman please feel free to join my tribe on Facebook called “The Biz Bling Sisters Network”. Find your tribe because you are no longer just an employee you are a Boss! Bosses hang with other Bosses and collaborate. Don’t neglect your friends but you don’t want to intimidate them by talking about your dreams and goals and they are content where they are. It could cause a lot of conflict. Love them as who they are girl and save your self the trouble!

Strategy 9. Set Aside Time to work on your side hustle. Commit to a set time and day(s). When I began my side hustle and was still working I had to get articulate about when I would actually put in the work. I was sacrificing lunch breaks and squeezing in time during my commute from New Jersey to Brooklyn, New York and in reverse when clocking out of my 9-5 at the end of the day. So in total I spent about 1 1/2 hours. When I got home I had to sit with my children for homework that I had left with them(i was homeschooling 4 out of 7 of my children at the time), preparing dinner, supervising household cleaning, and giving attention to my 4  year old who is now 9.  I had to quickly check emails and follow-up with participants of my teleseminar all while trying to coach a mother with just as many kids as myself and ready to just kill somebody for deleting a blog post she had been working on for days! Then I had to make sure that all of this was done before or after my prayers without slacking in my prayers. I persevered but after a while it got overwhelming and I totally clocked out of any and everything I was doing. This is not a space you want to be in because it makes you lose credibility with your target audience, trust is gone and it is twice as hard to make a comeback! People just wonder where you were and why they could not connect with you. They get angry and it takes them awhile to warm up to you again. Girl it gets real! 4Real! Bottom Line is that you cannot afford to be getting overwhelmed and crashing , instead you must  sit down somewhere and schedule your days so that you stay committed to meeting and exceeding your goals.

Just so you know…It took me about 4 hours to write this post today because I am a mom and life happens. Sometimes I have to unplug to deal with whatever is going on with my kids, the house, and other things. Being a mom is a job in itself and we just have to be flexible with our time. If we try to work in a rigid space it will cause us to become insane because we have just too much going on in a single day. Don’t let those superwoman moms with S’s on their chest tell you that being a Boss Mom is easy because it is not and you should not feel embarrassed to just be real about your journey. Do you know how many other mothers just need to hear that what they are going through is completely normal? Like get outta here with the perfect S! I think it stands for “Stir Crazy” not “Superwoman”! Hey! smile and go fix yourself something cold or hot to drink. Your preference but I think you deserve it after reading this post today because your “S” stands for “Super Tired” and you need to rest so you can be  “Super Ready” to do whatever it takes to be successful! How about that?

Peace, Love, and Hijab(protection, peace, love, modesty)

Ukhtee Walida-The Boss Moms Coach

7 Business Ideas for Aspiring Boss Moms

opportunitiesMore and more moms are taking on the Boss Mom role of raising kids and running a business. Some are still working their 9-5 and others have made a complete transition to being their own Boss. There has been a rise of Boss Moms in the small business space.

If you are an aspiring Boss Mom I know how difficult it can become to actually get started running a business you actually will enjoy and not feel like your wasting your time.

Ideas For The Aspiring Digital Boss Mom- You want a business that is 100% online having the freedom to go to work in your PJ’s or your best outfit , and even commuting from the bedroom to your home office which could literally be 3 feet away! Gurl! I am down with this one! I have been doing this for the last 3 years and it really is such an awesome space to be in!

If this sounds like you then here are 7 biz ideas for you.

  1. Social Media Manager- You can assist small businesses by training them how to use social media to grow their business. It’s a service that you can provide totally online without having to leave your house. Tryst me, companies will pay for this service because they are way too busy to try learning it on their own.
  2. Web Designer- This is where your skill for creativity and technology meetup and give you the opportunity to help companies with website building. The time it takes to build a website is time the company may find value added but not at the expense of their time. They want to be able to continue delivering optimum services and products to their customer so they would be willing to pay for this. So how about it? You can freelance your expertise for cash and never leave your comfy house or you can travel where you want and still be connected with your clients without missing important deadlines.
  3. Virtual Assistant- Work remotely and virtually as assistants for companies by managing their schedules, meetings, calls, etc… Tasks that the company feels unproductive and overwhelmed about doing or has no idea how to do can be transferred a virtual assistant. If you are a really organized person this may be like dream land for you  because you get to practically organize a company’s day to day chaos!
  4. Life Coach- Being a mother is a job we can never quit so we must accept and do what is best. Being a Boss has plenty benefits but can also leave you feeling drained and feeling hopeless. At times you just want to call quits and never turn back but I am here to tell you that all of those feelings that make you want to quit are all very normal and sometimes having someone help you sort out your feelings and create an action plan to keep you moving despite the struggle on your journey. Helping people win in life is such a rewarding position. You get to go through their journey with them and be their cheerleader . When they win you win and more people are served. This is beautiful! Life Coaches help clients with setting goals, getting unstuck, shifting their mindset, holding themselves accountable, creating an action plan to achieve goals, and just simply helping their clients navigate their way to success!
  5. Business Coach- Just like being a life coach can allow you to help people in their journey to fulfill their dreams business coaching can too! Entrepreneurship is a way to financial freedom, more time with family and as a mom I am sure this would be a service that you could appreciate having as well. Business coaches do mush of the same job as a Life Coach along with working closely with a clients plan to start, grow, or upscale a business.  I do both because I find that they go hand in hand if you genuinely want to see people succeed in business then you are going to have to help them win at life because that is the “root that holds the tree”!
  6. Network Marketer- I know you might already have your feet wet in this area but not sure which one is the best one right? Well that was me I spent money in several networking marketing companies but never found the one I liked and I could feel like it was something worth my precious time. Yeah! Like I have so much of that being a mother of 7! smile! I don’t regret my journey with any of them because I have learned some valuable skills and information that I now use in my own business. I say find one that gives you the room to be who you are and sell from a space of serving people! There are several. To name a few; Amway, Young Living, Doterra, 5Linx, ItWorks, Gano Excel, Organo Gold  and many more!
  7.  Blogger- I know you are wondering why I put this in the list if you think blogging is just articles for those interested but the truth is that blogging can be monetized too! It is a great way to inspire many people, especially those in your target audience from one place! Hey that one place could be your living room, your home office, at Starbucks, at Dunkin Donuts, the library or any other place that you go to that gives you the space to be creative and type  your heart away! I started this blog for the purpose of getting people to start using their God-Given talents to make their lives better whether it be in general or in the area of business

So… now that you have a few ideas, my suggestion is that you get started or at least search for more ideas on the internet.

P.S. It took me over 2 hours to type this post because I did not use my time well today. My son did not wake up until about 11 AM this morning. God only knows why I am trying to write a blog post while he is running around! This 2 year old is way  too energetic and I had to stop over a dozen times. I just wanted you to have something to connect with. Mom life is real stuff and I don’t ever want to make it seem like it’s a walk in the park! Gurl you know what I am talking about!

 

Peace, Love, and Hijab(veiled beauty, protection, character, modesty),

Ukhtee Walida-The Boss Moms Coach, Author, Coach Speaker, Youth Mentor, Educator

To connect with me and get updates on my journey you can follow me on Instagram @boss_moms_journey

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Motivated Muslimah Book Tour

mmpermission2win book coverI am so excited to announce that I will be continuing my book tour with the next stop at Masjid Al Mutakabbir , 462 Main Street in Poughkeepsie , NY on March 17, 2018 from 1pm-4pm! I can’t wait to meet you if you decide to come out! There is a workshop that I do right alongside the book signing so you will be sure to feel empowered when you leave and begin reading your copy of “Motivated Muslimah :Permission to Win”. I published this interactive journal back in July of 2017 and want you to join me in my journey to spreading the message that your life means so much and when you begin to upgrade it to receive all things possible by Allah then you will be successful!

Click on this link to register so you can join me on my next stop in Poughkeepsie, NY!

Busy Boss Moms Get Help!

pexels-photo-532389.jpegIf your anything like me or the thousands of boss moms working from home you might find that waking up before the kids wake up in the morning and getting some of your business tasks completed has really worked out for you. Now there are some of us who cannot seem to get everything done possible so as not to become frustrated when the children start demanding for our attention ans we totally lose it! I want to help you if this is you! You don’t have to do this alone. I know it’s your business and you also want to make sure that you have control over your household but sister girl this is a sure way to get completely burnt out and shutting down on some things you could just get some HELP with. Here a few ways you can begin releasing some of your control and begin loving your life and enjoying the journey to becoming that awesome Boss Mom!

You have to let go of some of the controls by:

  1. Realizing and writing down those things you absolutely drag yourself to do daily.
  2. Ask for HELP! Yes you must ask for help and stop thinking you can do it all. Lose the SUPERWOMAN title! Like 4 real, it has gotten you more stress than you need and you don’t have time for that!
  3. Let others help. Stop saying “I’m good, I got it, I’m okay” because you know deep down that you wish you could get some help. After all, you have a very busy life trying to raise kids , be a good wife, keep the house under control and run your business!

Checkout these 6 ways to a more exciting Boss Moms Life:

  1. Think about who can help you with dinner at night. It may be your kids or your spouse or even your girlfriends daughter that likes to hang out at your house(yeah! I have girls at my house those almost all the time asking me if I need help) Ask for HELP!
  2.  Maybe you could subscribe to a meal-planning service or do what I did so you don’t have to struggle with what you will cook for dinner every night. Here is what I started doing(yes girl! I am a work in progress so I will let you know what works and does not work for me.) Okay i just started writing down the dishes I normally make for my family, then i started checking off for the next 7 days what dishes i actually made making sure not to repeat them any more than once in a week(ex: spinach and chicken over rice on Tuesday and Friday) I really only repeat those dishes that are favorites! You could also try a meal planning service which I have yet to try but I hear they are inexpensive and worth it!
  3.  Send your little one to daycare at set hours and days weekly. This frees up so much time. At first you will, without a doubt, feel guilty, but it’s normal. When you start realizing how much you are actually getting done you will appreciate your decision and love your child even more when you re-unite at pickup time. You will also feel energized and ready to give him/her the attention they need.
  4.  Power nap even if it is just for 30 minutes! You will need to shut down and let your mind and body restore! Give your body it’s rights!
  5. Do something for yourself(pedicure, manicure, facial, hair done etc…) You must take part in self care. You can’t be looking jacked up and feeling jacked up and trying to serve folks! People can see right through that stuff girl! They need you to have an overflowing cup. You can give from whats overflowing and still feel refreshed! You know the saying “If Mama is happy then the house is happy”!  Now that’s how you do it!
  6.  Outsource some of your business tasks. Leverage! Make more impact by doing less! Try hiring a freelancer on fiverr.com, upwork.com

I hope that I have given you something to help you finally feel like you are getting the most done but not doing the most work! If that makes any sense! smile! Girl go get some help!

Peace, love, and hijab

Ukhtee Walida-The Boss Moms Coach

Societal Acceptance or Religious Affiliation?

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How do you identify a Muslim? A Jew? A Christian? Is it the color of their skin? Their country of origin? The career they chose? The place that they live? Probably not. It’s pretty hard to place someone in a religious category based on that criterion alone. Now, what if the Muslim woman wore a headscarf (hijab) and the Jewish man grew payot (long sideburns). What if the Christian donned a cross necklace? Would that make a difference?

As a human, you’re programmed to judge a book by its cover. (Whether you judge correctly is another issue). You have to be able to determine who’s a threat to you and who is not at a moments glance. It’s a matter of survival. When you see someone, you take in all the information you can. Clothes have a huge impact on your perception of the person. When you see a woman…

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Are Employees Taking Their Faith to Work?

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In our land of the free and home of the brave, we are a mixture of diverse cultures, languages, colors, and faiths. As an employee of any organization The Civil Rights Act of 1964 affords workers the freedom to practice and be provided with certain rights based on their religious beliefs as long as the accommodations do not cause undue hardship upon the business itself. These beliefs can span from providing a place for daily prayers, allowing employees to attend their religious services, or observing certain religious attire. Although, we as citizens have the right to practice our religion freely, the question still remains, Do employees feel they can request certain accommodations that befit their religious practices without subliminal or outright retaliation?

As a Muslim woman and former employee within corporate America, I was afforded the right to attend weekly prayer services and was given a flexible schedule during my…

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Take hold of the WHEEL

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Today in yoga, yoga once again mirrored life, in the form of this wheel. The instructor introduced this tool as a valuable resource to take you where you wanted to go. As you gently took hold or pressed in the wheel throughout class you used the resource to take you from where you were to where you wanted to be. Several times during the class when I stopped focusing on my breathing and started thinking I found myself doubting that I could enter or deepen the pose I was in. Only when I refocused and centered myself, reconnected to my breath was I able to experience all that the pose and essentially “I” had to offer. Leaving this class I surrender!!! I surrender to the amazing possibilities within myself, to the wonder that is the world and to the beauty of my life! I promise I will take more chances…

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Sooooo….. Why not become an author?

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Just a few sister authors that inspire me!

 

Here are just a few amazing benefits of becoming and author!

  1. You inspire others: People live to hear stories of tragedy to triumph. You unconsciously give them permission to break the cycle of madness in their life and finally begin reclaiming themselves for a better life.
  2. You put Bling on your personal brand: Your book acts as an ad for your personal brand.  It’s the bling for your brand!
  3. Instant credibility almost all of the time: People dig authors and trust them.
  4. Your book is like content marketing on instant: Digital marketers say that content marketing is one of the best ways to attract traffic. Guess what? Your book is the content!
  5. People don’t just throw away books: People keep books! They like to have a book to read or refer to for specific information on hand. Your book now re-markets at no extra cost!
  6. Opportunities for Speaking Engagements: Your book can open up opportunities for you in the form of speaking engagements. You are viewed as the expert so they want to hear from you!
  7. Doing business just becomes easier now: Sending a copy of your book to a perspective client can “break the ice” when you are negotiating business. Make sure to autograph it!
  8. Press & Media Coverage: Comments from experts are what journalists look for when writing about a hot industry topic. You are basically perceived as the expert so they will need you. Authors are automatically perceived as experts!
  9. The One Investment That Pays You Back Over and Over: It does cost time and money to get your book published but it’s the best investment with the best return. Your bank account gets fat and opportunities start flowing like a stream. Sleep Dollars is the name I give it!

Check out my Podcast series “Muslimah Bossin While Raising The Next Generation” every Saturday at 12 pm to here inspiration, motivation through classes and interviews from other Boss Moms around the globe to help you in your journey to become a successful Boss Mom! Visit www.Soundcloud.com to hear previous episodes. This Month in honor of Domestic Violence awareness I am interviewing sister authors to bring awareness to writing as therapy to heal from the wounds of domestic abuse.

You can also stop by Amazon and order my book “Motivated Muslimah: Permission to Win” to begin reclaiming your energy and motivation as you journey towards becoming the best version of you! You can also go to http://www.createspace.com/7388562 and type “mmp2win” in the password field to order a copy. mmpermission2win book cover

With Love and Peaceful Journeys,

Ukhtee Walida~ “The Boss Moms Coach”